by: Gregory Howard
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Going through a break up is a horrible emotional experience. If you have ever heard the song "Need You Now" by Lady Antebellum, if you haven't I suggest giving it a listen, it's a fantastic song. In the song the characters are going through all the pain of a break up and making a lot of mistakes.

One of the lines in the song states: "It's a quarter after one, I'm all alone and I need you now. Said I wouldn't call but I lost all control and I need you now." Mistake number 1, desperate dialing!

The other line I find interesting is: "It's a quarter after one, I'm a little drunk and I need you now." Drunk dialing is even worse. The other mistake that is often made is texting the ex, and texting and more texting. You become what is called a Text Terrorist.

What do you do if you want to get your ex back?

Be truthful with yourself and ask yourself this question: Do I absolutely want my ex back? Take hard look at everything here and make sure the true love is really there and this is not just a reaction to being alone or feeling by your self.

If you answered with a confident, yes I want my ex back! Then there is a process to follow.

Make SUre You Do Not Do What Is Expected

At this time being predictable is the last thing you want to do. Keep your ex guessing and make them work their way back into your good standing. If you keep them on their toes they will keep coming back for more.

What can you do to keep from doing what is expected? Put an end to those daily habits. Chances are doing the same ol' same ol' is what got you here in the first place. It's time to add something fresh and exciting to your routine.

Now Is The Time To Instill Relationship Goals

Even though you're apart you can still set goals. If you're trying to get your ex back, goal setting is an important part of the process. Set goals for different degrees of closeness and affection between the two of you and then set out to achieve those goals.

Goals you might want to consider include: making physical changes, reaching emotional milestones, and controlling your temper just to get started. You'll have to find goals that are more appropriate to you and the type of relationship you had together.

Make Sure You Hold Yourself Accountable For Both Your Success And Failures

Accountability, lately seems to be in short supply. Hold yourself accountable for failing to meet goals. As well as rewarding yourself when goals have been triumphantly met.

The best two motivators are reward and punishment. They can be used as tools. Some rewards that you might choose: a new video game (if that's your thing), a new hair style (if that's your thing) or a fun night out with friends. You want to do stuff that assures an active lifestyle. Activity will keep you healthier, you do not want to complicate all that is happening with health issues.

About the Author

Learn more about getting back with your ex. Stop by Gregory Howard's site where you can find out all about The Make Up Plan to get your ex back.

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